Woody Allen once said that “Showing up is 80% of life.”
Feel free to take exception with Allen’s choice of sex partners, as I do, but I can’t help but admire this statement. What does it even mean? It sounds easy at first, like all you have to do is show up and not even lift a finger after that.
But actually, showing up consistently is really hard. How many times have I woken up after a horrible night’s sleep, maybe due to some disagreement with my husband or maybe because I’m in a panic about a loved one’s medical issues. Or maybe it’s because I’m overly anxious about a song I’ve written that I’m going to play at a recital or for critique. Regardless of the reason, some mornings I feel like a hot mess and I don’t want to show my face to the world. I don’t want to show up. But I do and it’s hard, but I’m always glad I did; it makes me feel better to have shown my fraught little face to the world and not run away from my day’s commitments. It makes me feel proud of myself, rather than still more ashamed and more avoidant.
When in doubt: show up. It gets easier over time.